Ideas of Curiosity · In real life

How to Deal with Difficult People

Pop psychology is trendy, and there’s lots on the internet about it. But what’s worth reading? What does it really say? How can we apply it to make our lives better, immediately? Up for discussion. Discussing it, in #projectnow. I wanted to create a set of materials for #projectnow to clarify, simplify, and share what I read and how I interpret it. Sources for ‘If x then !’, include Mindy Turner’s quite useful breakdown of how to cope with difficult people, and a snippet from Adam Brady’s post about the same topic, too.* Music is ‘Alien Dream’ by Romariaogrande . Graphic art is by Dipika Kohli. Interactive element by Boss. (*Links at the end.) 


Humans are social beings, so they get deeply tied up with lots of relationships all through their lives.

It’s natural to want to be with people who make you happy, help you grow, and bring fulfillment into your life.

But, there are sometimes difficult people who make things harder to do that for you. You try to do the things that make you feel happy around them, but, no matter how much you work at it, sometimes you just can’t do anything about running into this type of person in your life.

A difficult boss. A troubling friend. An overbearing mother. A controlling spouse.

Let’s try to break the types of difficult people down now into eight categories and see how to handle things when you have to manage yourself in their presence.

This is important. Why?

Being forced to deal with challenging relationships and difficult people and coping with these interactions can stress you out, create tension, and give you anxiety. This is bad for your mood, and, worse, you get exposed to emotional toxicity.

Toxicity is a word that gets thrown around a lot on the internet so let’s not blanket define people without first accepting that all of us, at some point, are difficult. Either to others, or with ourselves. You can see this chart as a way to better understand your own emotions and the ways you can help yourself move past hard spots, personally, along with thinking about how to handle tough people in your everyday life, too.

The below piece is made by Boss. (Buy Boss a coffee at our crowdfunding page).


In real life

3 April | S P A C E | HCMC, ‘Miniparty’

LET’S TALK ABOUT learning. How we discover, find, and make new connections. Ideas, shapes of thinking and the input that comes from places that might not be the ‘usual’ ones. No more boring meetings: What are the containers that make great conversations *happen*? Conversations that lead to better collaboration and better work? Those are important. Let’s not waste time. Let’s make things better, together.

Better and more enjoyable: that’s the key.

How do we design the S P A C E that lets fresh thinking flow? Continue reading “3 April | S P A C E | HCMC, ‘Miniparty’”

In real life · Publisher's Diary · The Muse

A sunny day

Dear L,

Cooooool. That was so fun.

Photo: Van Tran

I was taken on a journey that transported me out of Vietnam, but also, outside of all the usual boxes that you can find even when you leave the nation-border box. (HT Jiddu Krishnamurthi) For example, the strict thinking that keeps us from trying new things. All the feelings that I have been having here in Vietnam on my own, for a year, unable to articulate because of English I got to completely open up and share. That was amazing, and I got to hear, moreover, something in exchange. These exchanges are what I enjoy most about making S P A C E. They—the exchanges—are, after all, the whole point of it. And fun. ‘If it’s not fun’, as Boss says, ‘then there’s no point doing it.’ Thanks to conversations with MB this year, though I am coming out of the cave. It’s nice outside. Sunny.

Một ngày nắng đẹp.

Cheers, ladies and gentlemen.

To the journeys, then

PS A week or so from now, I’ll host another popup, maybe. By invitation for those already in my circle, but for those who aren’t, and are reading this blog post, and want to know more, here is a signup page:

Photo: Van Tran, Atelier S P A C E HCMC, Autumn 2020. Atelier S P A C E is supported by crowdfunding, in-kind donations, and Design Kompany client gigs.