Poetic and poignant article by Laurie Taylor, for what is called the Grief and Loss Center in Dallas, TX.
Normally I do not link to organizations with religious affiliation. it’s just a thing I do not do. As a rule. Because J. Krishnamurthi, who said to never quote him, (and whose recorded lectures helped me tremendously through the early stages of the pandemic in March-May 2020 when I was stuck in a foreign country waiting to see how to get out), tells us that religious divisions will rip us apart just by proclaiming them (we ‘other’ one another when we start drawing lines of any kind). So, from 2020 on, I started to be very careful about whom I share about in this series, ‘Found in the Field.’
But this is so good. Because it’s so, so human. Eloquent and universal.
A snippet from ‘Not Our Job to Fix It’, byLaurie Taylor:
‘Grief can’t be fixed because grief isn’t broken. It doesn’t need to be repaired. Grief is terribly misunderstood as an enemy to be fought — a burden to be overcome — an illness to be cured. Quite the contrary, grief is a gift given in the most difficult moments of our lives to help us endure devastating loss. Grief patiently and lovingly guides us to a place of growth and renewal. We often try everything we can to fix our grief. Words can help, but words can’t fix grief. Exercise can help, but exercise can’t fix grief. Praying can help, but praying can’t fix grief. Support groups can help, but support groups can’t fix grief. Counseling can help, but counseling can’t fix grief. Journaling can help, but journaling can’t fix grief. Nature can help, but nature can’t fix grief. Sometimes we try unhealthy ways to fix our grief... Unhealthy “fixes” for grief are dangerous and never ever work. It’s simply not our job to fix grief. Our responsibility is to embrace grief and to grieve well. Somewhere along the way we finally realize that we don’t fix grief. Grief fixes us.’
Grief fixes us.