It will be on 9 May. It will be for 2-4 people. A small circle. A little bit of time. I’ve been hosting parties for years now but none of them are as good, for me, as the intentionally-designed ones that have no more than 4 people. Any more than that and things get out of hand.
Overinviting and overexpecting because ‘more is more!’ is how it used to be, for DK, with our too-big parties and too-often-made #tweetups (yes, I organized such things). This was back in the days when things were all about loud and not-yet-too-much-internet so the fake-y fake-y current mode of putting on a show wasn’t as easy to do. You just had a show.
Instead of noisy and loud and too-many, I want to focus now on quality. Optimizing for continuity, for quality, for relationships that actually matter. [HT IB, CS and VT, who taught me that quality comes when you show up and you get to be yourself. Truly.]
Without worrying about what other people think or making a mistake. Gosh, that must be difficult. But, that’s not the problem this event is here to solve. That’s yours to solve. Each of ours, that is. Individually. What we do is what comes after you get out of this rut. We make space that allows interestingness to happen. It takes experience with hosting and stuff, but I have that. See dipikakohli.com.
Designing for quality: optimizing for quality relationships + conversations
‘The quality of our relationships matters,’ write the authors of this Harvard Health blog post about how if you don’t have good relationships, your health suffers. ‘For example, one study found that midlife women who were in highly satisfying marriages and marital-type relationships had a lower risk for cardiovascular disease compared with those in less satisfying marriages. Other studies have linked disappointing or negative interactions with family and friends with poorer health.’ Wow, right? It goes on.
With: ‘One intriguing line of research has found signs of reduced immunity in couples during especially hostile marital spats.’ So what to do about it? The authors continue, ‘Having a network of important relationships with social support can also make a difference. A large Swedish study of people ages 75 and over concluded that dementia risk was lowest in those with a variety of satisfying contacts with friends and relatives.’
Satisfying contacts. Yes.
Let’s converse. Let’s play?
This is my first call for new members to join The Third Place since back in December. Omicron came and that put a damper on things and so I did a virtual session in the meantime and a handful of real life circles, too. No more than four, every time. Four is a nice number. Four is good. I’ll take it.
More about the event is at my personal website.